Today's philisophical topic -- emotional health. Every one has issues with self esteem and the fact that we make mistakes... But how do we keep those moments of self doubt from completely taking over our image of ourselves and those moments become days and years of not realizing how truly amazing you are. I was talking to a friend of mine the other day and she was telling me that she really wasn't happy with herself and she didn't know what to do about it. I tried so hard to try and say things to make her feel better, to help her know that she is amazing, I know she is. I even shared stories about myself when I didn't feel good about myself to try and tell her that you can get over it or it happens to every one but I think that just made it worse and made me look so incredibly bad. So incredibly bad. We will however forget about that and move on to my theory about the entire thing.
**Disclaimer: I am so not the poster child for good self esteem, BUT I have made tons of progress in the whole being happy with myself area. And this is just my personal opinion on approving of yourself.**
So here is my thing. There are always 'big' things that we take and run with that make us doubt ourselves. Here is my rememdy for that. Try and appreciate the little things. I think you should take the little compliments that people tell you, maybe just even in passing, and log them away for those times when you're sad. Those times when someone totally random tells you that you look cute that day, or even better, someone you totally adore tells you that you're gorgeous. Just remember all those little moments and how awesome they made you feel. Times like those make you feel, even for just a second, like 'hey, I'm a little bit awesome.' Haha remember those moments and most of all believe people when they say things like that. I know that some days are just not good self image days, I understand that, but those feelings aren't reflected in how you look to other people. Although if you feel awesome, or even a little bit good about yourself, it shows.
Other than that, I have no idea how to feel good about yourself. I suppose finding something that you truly love about yourself, and love it even more. Also find something that you absolutely love to do...no matter what other people think about you...and do it. It makes you happy and you should always do it. (Unless it is illegal, immoral....all the usual stuff :) But I really don't know if those things would even help other people....how can I help when this has to come from inside? I just don't know...
Wednesday, September 10, 2008
We all have issues.......right?
Posted by Heidi at 8:05 PM
Labels: Heidi's Head, Observations
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Or, don't be pregnant. Because there is no pregnancy "glow" for me. It's the pregnancy "YUCK", as Kara's way-too-good camera evidenced in those pictures, yikes! I need a face mask or somethin'! :) At least the little one have perfect skin and I'm part of that, right? Also, I submit that self-esteem is the hardest thing to overcome because no matter how many times someone says something nice about you, it doesn't stick. Changing how you see yourself is the hardest thing.
The little one HAS, not have. Sorry.
I was thinking about it and if you're in one of those moods then somebody says something and you don't think they're lying and you want to believe them so much but for some reason you just can't. It's weird.
Abbey, your skin does not look bad, you're crazy!!! In one of the many, many working with youth training camp seminar things I've been to, I learned that for every negative comment you hear, it takes 6 positive comments to cancel that out in your mind. And that's just to cancel it out, not even to make you believe the positive comments, just to make you not believe the negative one. How sad is that? Ever since then it's made me think a lot about everything I say, not that I was in the habit of constantly insulting people, but to try to make sure that at least most of the things that come out of my mouth serve to uplift. But what goes on in my head is a whole different story . . .
Wow! That is so interesting to know! It makes a lot of sense though. I try to always say nice things just because I knew how much the bad things hurt but haha just like you what goes on in my head is a little different sometimes!
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